Does love really not cost a dime?
A lot of things could make or mar your
love life and your desire for a relationship that actually works.
From having to deal with liars and fake people, to being bothered about the
other person’s understanding of gender roles in modern relationships and
marriages.
And then for a lot
of persons, there is the ever-present worry centered around money and how it’ll
be made and spent for the furtherance of their love ministry. Whether or not
people date, as well as who they end up with will often hinge on their
financial abilities and their station in life at the time.
A certain stat from
USA claims that 30% of millennials in the country feel their dating life is
impacted by their financial stability, and it is hard to imagine that that same
rule does not apply around here and in other parts of the world.
Dating is hard for many [to
varying degrees] simply because there just isn’t enough money to fund the
activities that would form a wholesome, adrenaline-filled, enjoyable
relationship. It’s just as simple as that.
Yes, love don’t
cost a thing. Regardless it still so damn expensive for many millennials in
this part of the world where relationships are still largely defined by
material gift giving and the amount of money one partner is willing to oil the
other’s hands with on a regular basis.
And as expert, Dr
Helen Fisher says: “Millennials are very ambitious. They are terrified of
catching feelings and getting into relationships that they
can’t (financially or mentally) manage.”
She tells USA Today
that millennials date in a “slow-love” pattern while highlighting other things
that show how unaffordable relationships are to millennials.
“Two-thirds of people in their 20s still live at home,” Fisher
continued, “not because they are lazy but because they
are saving their money and they really feel that they need to get their career
and finances in order before they marry.”
Compared to previous times, dating
now feels a lot more expensive. Maybe if high-brow, instagrammable ‘standards’
hadn’t been set by social media, love would have been less expensive to
express… maybe the pressure to bust a budget for love would be alleviated and a
true connection could flow more frequently than what seems to be the order of
the day now.
As it is, dating
and being in a relationship seems to cost too much for several millennial who
would rather just not put themselves through the struggle of living up to the
financial expectations of a relationship.
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