Many people dream of relationships that are
continuous, unending, unfading… forever in an idealistic, fairy tale sense.
But
sometimes along the way, it feels a little underwhelming, it does not feel as
starry or as dreamy as we envisage. We hit rough patches and we have to fight
to keep what is ours, to hold on dearly and not let that precious gift slip.
At times
like these, we need encouragement, a little word of advice to help us fan the
flames of passion and keep us going on the path of love again.
Some
people took to Reddit to share some of the wisest advice that positively
influenced their love lives and we have decided to share all the ones we found
really insightful.
1.
Self assessment is important
A user
shares from her mother’s experience with selfishness and how she changed to
being more selfless.
“When my mum and my dad
were on their second separation, she was out with her best friend and was
venting about all the things she wanted him to change.
“Her friend asked her 'What are
you willing to change about yourself?' It made my mother think about how
she negatively affected the marriage too and realise that if she wanted him to
change things about himself, she needed to be willing to change things about
herself and meet him halfway."
2.
True romance remains in the small things
“Do the small things. Sometimes
I definitely don't want to get off the couch and help my wife with something,
but I know she really appreciates it when I do,” another
user says, before poetically adding the following words;
“Big things build the
structure, little things fill in the gaps.”
3. About communication and
selflessness
According to this Mrs, “There are definitely times when my husband is
telling me about a game or movie and I don't want to listen. But I always try
to because it matters to him.”
4.
Don’t just say it, show it
“I think the best relationship
advice I have ever received is that you don't have to always verbally comfort
them and you can still let them know you care by just being there,” another
user adds.
5. Don’t ever get too old for romance
“Even if you're married, never
stop dating your spouse. Love is active,” someone shared before being backed up
by another who said “don't make it all about the children. They won't be around
forever, but the two of you will.”
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